I just want to give you some questions that will help you open the door to conversation with your children. Here are some simple questions that will help you and your child develop the ability to communicate so that when difficult situations arise, you can talk through the ‘stickiness’ of anything.
Questions for your younger children:
- When was a time that you felt lucky?
- What is it about the getting older that you are most excited about?
- What is the happiest memory you have?
- What is the saddest memory you have?
- If you could give one gift to every single child in the world, what would it be?
- Who is your number one hero and why?
- What are the things you do that really helps our family?
Questions for your older children:
- Where do you want to live when you are older? What do you want your house to look like when you are 30? What kind of car do you want to drive when you are 35? How much free time do you want to have and how do you want to spend it when you are 40? (yes this is only one question)
- If you could travel back in time three years and visit yourself, what advice would you give yourself?
- What five words best describe you? What 5 words best describe me? (Whatever they say to the second question, do not get upset or hurt. Think of it as an opportunity to see your weakness from the outside and that is only an opportunity to improve)
- What is something that makes our family special?
- What is one thing you wish you were better at?
- Of all the things you are learning, what is the one thing that you think will be most helpful as an adult?
- Would you cheat on a test if you knew you would not get caught? Why or why not? (Again, don’t react to this answer if they say yes. You are building a bridge. You can fix the cheating issue later. For now… just build the bridge)